How you can help
If someone you know has experienced a crime, you may not know how to support them. You may be in shock, angry or distressed about what they’ve gone through.
That’s OK. The most important thing to remember is it was not their fault, and they are not to blame.
You can learn more about the type of crime they’ve experienced, or how a support service like Victim Support can help them to move forward.
Here are a few simple things you can do:
- Let them speak: reassure them you’re there for them. Listen calmly if they want to talk and try not to interrupt.
- Believe them: victims may feel ashamed, embarrassed, or worried they’ll be judged, blamed or won’t be believed. Tell them you believe them, and that it’s not their fault.
- Reassure them: let them know whatever they’re feeling is normal. There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to feel, everyone responds differently. Reassure them they’re not alone, and they don’t have to deal with this on their own.
- Ask how they’d like to be supported: try not to be upset if they need to be alone or want time to themselves without your help.
Our online resource, My Support Space, has a number of guides designed for those supporting someone after crime or trauma. You can create a free account at any time.