Feeling shocked or numb – having trouble believing that the person has been killed, or that you can’t take it in.
Angry – sometimes at the person who has died, sometimes at the person who caused their death, sometimes with everything. All of these feelings are natural responses to losing someone you love.
Guilty – you might be blaming yourself in some way for what has happened. Maybe you had an argument before they died, maybe you regret something that you said or did, or there might be something you wish you had done or said. But it’s not your fault in any way, and you really shouldn’t blame yourself.
Scared – the world as you have known it has changed and that can feel very scary. It can also be very scary to think that someone can take another person’s life, or cause their death. But you need to remember that you are not at risk or in danger, and that there are a lot of people who you can talk to and who can help you.
Sad – feelings of sadness can take over. At times you might feel like you can’t stop crying, or that you can’t cry at all. This stage may come and go for a while. Some days may be good and some bad. It is important that you don’t try and rush to feel better, or compare yourself to other people who seem to be coping better than you.
Depressed – you might feel like life has no meaning anymore, and that you don’t know how to go on. Talking about this with someone who will understand these difficult feelings is important so that you can get through them.